What I’m still learning PT.1
May 25, 2021
Wow! It’s been two years since walking down the aisle to meet and marry a stranger I would call my husband. The marriage was only for two months but, it was a very insightful two months that changed my life forever. When I look back on the experience I tend to think, ‘what the heck was I thinking’. In actuality, I was thinking I would fall in love and find someone to spend the rest of my life with. I would finally say ‘I Love You’ to an individual whom I actually loved, and this person would love me back with passion, fulfillment and sincerity. As we all know, I did not get that outcome. Many of you have asked me, am I mad, sad, bitter. The answer is “no”. I am just blessed to have been apart of something that changed me for the better and allowed me to look at myself and others in a different and very intentional light.
How have I changed? Here is one of plenty, this time two years ago I would easily trust people. I learned as a child to trust people first, give them benefit of the doubt then take away that trust as soon as they showed me they weren’t worthy…now it’s the opposite. An individual must now gain my trust first, then maybe I can grow into fully trusting you them…maybe. A lot of us are like that, trusting people is hard to do. Especially when you naïvely trusted someone who deceived, lied, or manipulated you. I know right, talk about being guarded “call the Queens Guards I need a few”. Maybe it is a mistake I’ll learn to grow out of or maybe it’s something that is now ingrained in my fiber forever. I’ve changed much more than that which you will read more about later but its all thanks to an insightful two months.
The real reason for this post is what have I learned about myself?? I’d ask what have you learned about me BUT to be honest whether its right or wrong it’s your own interpretation of a person you saw only 15-20min each week for a few months. But do you REALLY know me? Or you know about the story line of a virgin girl you saw on TV? Well, this blog is all about that and for you all to learn more about my new insights. No this is not just talking about Married at First Sight, there is a lot more to me than that. Fashion, Beauty, Travel, and Life, straight from the source, no edits, no makeup, just Iris.
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Hey Iris, I love seeing you evolve and allow God to use you. I was rooting for you the whole time on MAFS, because I knew that you being on there was much bigger than you. Your conviction to wait till marriage has inspired and encourage more women than you know! You are a strong, beautiful black woman. I love your style and your demeanor! I’m so glad you were on that show, you proved that it is okay to be classy, beautiful, honest and a mystery in a culture that is overly sexualized and fake. Continue to be you and allow God to be glorified in your life!
Love how you have framed your experience on MAFS. Nothing happens that isn’t supposed to – continue walking in your purpose ❤️
Sweetie. I applaud you for being unapologetically you. Regardless of the our ones, you learned and grew. He was too shallow anyway. God bless your journey and know that you inspire.
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Love this! I am excited to follow you on this journey of growth.
You’re a queen. I’ve been watching MAFS from day one. The is editing is trash. I quit through last season. I’m done with it.
Keep risin’ and ridin’ for Jesus. and you will have your happily-ever-after.
Iris! I wish I could meet you and interview you for my podcast which is about all things Jesus, mental health and anything to be the best version because my audience would certainly also be blessed by you! I am blessed by you living in a non compromising way! I am soooo proud of you sis!
– Love,
Bewindi
Iris,
I am happy life is going good for you. Stay centered in Christ when the world distracts you. Stay confident in the word when truth evades you. Stay compassionate toward others when hate surrounds you. Stay connected to the church when people disappoint you. You all was a beautiful couple. My prayers if it’s God will that you all can communicate again.
It was refreshing to see someone stick to there morals and values in this day and age. We live in the times of being followers and going with the flow. You didn’t do that and can walk away with your head held high. Young girls need to see that it’s ok and nothing to be ashamed of and that they are the prize. Love to see that you know who & who’s you are. Keep believing and being unapologetically you.
You were my favorite on MAFS I loved your honesty don’t let anyone dim your light continue to be that ray of sunshine God has a greater purpose for you Be Blessed ❤️
Iris , I personally believe that What God has for you , is for you. Most men would respect who you are and what your stand for. My prayer is God in his time will
Send you the Boaz he has designed specially for you. You being the missing rib of him, when he puts his arm around you, you’ll fit. You’ll know then and the perfect will of God will be fur filled in your life. Be blessed
You have certainly inspired us women to remember that our bodies are the temple of God. Happiness can only be found in living for Christ. He promised he has a plan for us not to harm but to give hope and a future. Stay blessed.
I loved you on MAFS, I hate how they made being a virgin most of ur identity. Was that serious. And I appreciate you for being the queen you are the whole show. You stayed real and that was clear. Love to see you doing wonderfully and blessed.